If you have never had an issue with the parents of a partner, consider yourself one of the lucky few. This article might not be for you, but read it just in case because you NEVER know what can happen down the line.
For those of you who may have the occasional problem with parentals, read on for some tried and true tips and tricks on how to deal with them for the sake of your sanity and your relationship.
BITE YOUR TONGUE!
Unless their family is offending you or saying something dangerous/crazy your life will be easier if you just ignore much of what they're saying and let it roll off your back. Nothing you say will change their beliefs and often, people are rude or snarky to illicit a response. Keep yourself cool by holding back. It's easier to say something to them down the line than snap and have you apologize.
VENT TO A FRIEND
Have a trusted friend who you can vent to. MAKE SURE THIS PERSON IS NOT YOUR PARTNER. I can't stress that enough. DO NOT VENT TO YOUR PARTNER ABOUT THEIR FAMILY. There is no need to add stress especially when they can't do anything about it. It could also cause them to get defensive and sad so definitely stay out of it. Instead, find a therapist or a friend who can keep their mouth shut as well to vent to.
TAKE YOUR STRESS OUT ON A HOBBY
Meditate, do yoga, box, or even scream into a pillow. Have something constructive that you can do to relieve any stress and tension you may be holding on to and that you can rely on when you're feeling upset after a visit or nasty phone call.
STAND UP FOR YOURSELF
II know I said earlier to bite your tongue - that stands for when the family is being silly and it would do more harm than good to say something. Equally important is to stand up for yourself when it really matters. It might be a good idea to have a list of topics that you're willing to push back on so that you're prepared when it is time to react.
DON'T MAKE YOUR PARTNER TAKE SIDES
FForcing your partner to choose between you or their family will not end well for anyone. I sincerely hope it never comes to that kind of a breaking point but if it does - that might mean it's time to reevaluate your relationship. The idea is to be with someone forever, and if you can't make it work with their family, this might not be the person for you.
You're not going to get along with everyone you meet in the course of your life, and that's okay - have you ever experienced this? How did you deal with it?